Thank you for the level of detail you provide in your question - this helps a lot in answering it. I would say that you act "as if". Every morning when you wake up, tell yourself that you are already in this leadership/management role you want. Almost like you are wearing an invisible cloak when you enter your office. Once you are there, connect with your highest self: meaning act from your best heart-filled place. True leaders are generous and discerning. They used their energy wisely. Also, read "Give and Take" by Adam Grant. Good luck!