I think it's really hard to know what to expect in your first startup. Because of that, I didn't prepare my wife well for it, and we had to work through it on the fly. We learned a lot together, and ultimately discovered where each of our limits were.

At the end of the day, I chose to honor her limits and step away from running the startup in a full time capacity. The result has been a greater trust on her part and (I believe) a greater tolerance for future risk.

It's been a little over a year since I stepped away full-time, and we're BOTH dreaming about what the next startup would look like and what we need to make it work. We'll be much better prepared the next time around, but I don't think we could have done much more to prepare the first time.