I don't have a spouse right now but I have in the past. I would say that it is important to include them in your ambitions and your desires. I remember when I was in a relationship and when I was married, it was important to me to discuss everything that I did. The problem was, they did not want to hear it so ......it is very hard to keep your spouse or significant other in the loop when they are always saying that every time you say something that you are trying to start an argument. My thing is just because I am speaking and trying to have a conversation with you, does not mean I am trying to argue. Maybe, you should listen sometimes.

I have great ideas and I always want to include my significant other in those ideas. I may even want them to participate in helping me to get my idea off the ground. No pressure though. If I could at least say what I have on my mind about what I want to do without them trying to dismiss me by saying that I am trying to argue, that would be great. Well, I guess that is why I am single because there is no one who wants to listen to me or my ideas.